Have you been stuck in the dating scene for way too long?
We’ve decided to help you out and share a few exclusive tips from dating experts across the web.
Our next interview is with Cher Gopman.
Cher Gopman is the founder of NYC Wingwoman. NYC Wingwoman is the premiere dating coach with all the skills to permanently upgrade your love life – Learn to genuinely attract and retain love!
So let’s dive right in!
Tell us a bit about yourself and how did you become a dating coach?
Hi! My name is Cher and I am the NYC Wing Woman! I started this business because I was tired of seeing my friends make silly dating mistakes and the business just kept growing and growing. I grew up with two older brothers and I always had a lot of guy friends that would come to me asking for a female opinion. I realized I could help more men by giving them the inside scoop to what women want and desire. I started my business a couple of years ago and I could not be happier. I love working with people and adore helping others learn to attract and retain love. I understand the struggles of dating in a big city and I know it is not always easy, but I give my clients the tools to date confidently so that when the right person does come along, they are ready! Prior to working as a dating coach, I was a Psychiatric Nurse, Pageant Queen, and Professional Cheerleader. My techniques in educating my clients are unique as I actually take my clients out and give them real-time feedback, which allows them to put their education into practice.
What services do you offer?
I offer Date Coaching, The Wingwoman service, & Matchmaking.
Dating can be somewhat stressful, how do you recommend coping with the stress?
Dating can be stressful, but it can also be a lot of fun. Once you are in a serious relationship or married, you will no longer have the opportunity to date so I always encourage clients to enjoy it while they can! I do not recommend staying in any unhealthy or stressful relationships. In order to cope with the stress of dating, I always feel it is important to take time to do the things that you love. If you are in a happy place within yourself, dating will be a lot more of a positive experience, too.
In your opinion, what are the top traits women look for in men? And vice versa?
I believe men and women both look for similar qualities when looking for a partner. Both men and women look for attractions, compatibility, confidence, and excitement. How you make the other person feel when they are around you sets the mood for future dates.
What would you say is the most important thing to do before a first date?
Always give yourself enough time to get to the date. Getting to the date late or starting the date feeling rushed is never a positive way to begin. You always want to walk into a date feeling like the best version of yourself. Give yourself enough time to get ready and mentally prepare for the date. Put all calls aside and give the date a fair chance.
Online dating – Yes or No? Why?
I definitely am an advocate for all things dating! Whether it be meeting someone online and then going on a date, or meeting someone in person, it is important to get yourself out there and start meeting new people. You never know who you can meet just one swipe away!
What do you think is the best app/dating site for meeting someone?
I love dating apps that allow you to talk about yourself. I am not a huge fan of tinder because the app is focused on your appearance. I enjoy apps such as hinge because this app asks you fun questions about yourself and allows the daters to get a feel for your personality and who you really are before swiping left or right.
How important is your online dating profile? What should it include? What shouldn’t it include?
If you are planning to use online dating platforms then your profile is extremely important! Make sure your written profile shows a fun side of you. Only talk about the positive and never the negative. Let the person swiping see how fun your life is and that will make them want to be apart of it too! Also, make sure your profile photos are clear and a good representation of who you are. You definitely want to include a headshot type photo, a photo that shows your body type, a group photo with you and your friends of the same sex (to show that you are social), and a photo of you doing a fun activity (It is great to show your wild side and have a photo that people can comment on).
Do you think one should play “The Game” if they’re looking for a serious relationship?
There are many versions of “The Game”, I think it is important to be true to who you are, however you do not have to let your date know about all your dirty laundry right away. It is important to keep some mystery and excitement which will keep your date wanting to learn more about you.
To sum things up, what do you recommend doing in order to keep the fire burning?
It is important not to get stagnant in your relationship. Always look for new and exciting things to experience together. My husband and I have been married for 4 years and we always strive to come up with fun new date ideas. I believe keeping your dates fun and interesting are the keys to successful and happy relationships.
Thank you, Cher, for your amazing tips!